- You value lifelong learning and personal/spiritual growth
- You recognize that you can’t change your partner (though that doesn’t stop you from trying…) You want to take responsibility for how you show up, knowing that will change the relationship.
- You’re successful in your career, but you know success in relationships involves a much different skillset, and you want to learn it: being vulnerable, listening empathically, apologizing and forgiving, generosity, and being heart-centered.
You connect with one or more of the below statements:
- You have compassion for others but judge yourself.
- You “know” how to treat others nicely, but when you’re upset, you blame others and get critical/angry, especially at your partner
- You value being a “good” person, so you pretend that things don’t bother you until they build up and you get upset.
- You feel your partner is not meeting your needs and blame them, even though you “know” you “should” take responsibility
- Your sex life has become routine and you want to experiment but you don’t know how to talk about it without hurting each other’s feelings
- Your life “looks” great from the outside, but inside you’re filled with questions, self-doubt, and disconnection.
- You feel attacked when your partner shares their emotions cause it’s coming from a place of “there’s something wrong or you’re not good enough.”
- You feel like you’re drifting apart.
- You are holding on to hurts from the past and don’t know how to apologize and forgive in a meaningful way
- You feel uncomfortable with conflict, instead of using conflict as a doorway to deeper intimacy