I was searching for help and when I saw Valerie’s website I immediately knew found the right person. When I gave her a call I could just feel the presence of kind soul so I decided to give her a try. In no time at all our rapport grew to the point I was not talking to a professional coach but a wise close friend that I could open up to and share my vulnerabilities with.
My relationship was growing more and more challenging, and I realized I needed to grow emotionally if I wanted it to succeed. When I Explained my situation to Valerie she quickly began giving me tools to succeed. Through valuable coaching, exercises and outside reading my capacity to understand my needs and my new partners grow immensely.
I was tremendously insecure in my relationship and my partner, for reasons of her own, needed me to be “a rock” in her life. With Valerie’s coaching I learned the reasons behind my insecurity and ways to deal with them. I’m happy to say today I am “the Rock” my partner needs and our relationship is strong and loving.
Just the other day I was able to use the skills Valerie taught me and it turned what could have been a very bad situation into a very positive one. We started to have a heated fight and before launching into my insecure and self defensive old patterns I asked for a time out and followed Valerie’s advice. I stopped to “checkin” with myself to understand what was going on, I was feeling pure anger! Stepping back and asking myself about the anger I realized the anger was simply my old insecurities coming up again. When I went back to my partner I explained that I was feeling insecure and why, and explained what I needed to feel good about the situation. What resulted was a deep loving communication rather than hurtful words, and rather than an event that would have severely damaged our relationship it only grew stronger.
This is not just a job for Valerie but her devotion, and she is a rock star at it. If you find yourself in a similar situation or need help in a relationship don’t wait, contact Valerie and began growing and learning and creating that relationship of your dreams.
Mike A.