I was stuck in a long distance semi-relationship with a man who identified as my “best friend” and would not quite call us anything else, even though it was so painfully obvious we were amazingly compatible. We spoke for hours every day, sent each other presents, visited when we could and were very much the strongest daily fixtures in each other’s lives. And yet he was very hurt from a nasty divorce and kept women at a distance. He was dating other women and I was unable to move on and just couldn’t live like this anymore, so I made the painful decision to cut ties with him. During our time apart, I decided to contact Valerie as a sort of last-ditch effort to see if she could help me put together the family I always envisioned with him.
Valerie is a patient and loving coach. Speaking with her always feels like a warm hug. She listens without judgment and teaches you how to effectively communicate with men in a way that inspires them. She did give me a step by step guide to have the important conversation I had to have with my love (the make or break conversation) but she also taught me skills to effectively communicate with him that I will use for life.
I followed Valerie’s advice to a T, and after one conversation, I had my love opening up to me and admitting he saw the same future I did, and that he was just partly scared and partly too “dumb to see what he had right in front of him.” There were still more hurdles to jump and difficulties to get through, which Valerie helped me navigate, but we quickly progressed to a fully committed monogamous relationship, and I moved across the country to live with him. I am now pregnant and we are living so happily together. We honestly never fight, although I have gotten upset plenty of times. I try to channel my inner Valerie and explain to him how I am feeling and he ALWAYS listens, understands and corrects it. (if it’s correctable) I feel so loved and adored that I sometimes have to pinch myself to make sure I’m not dreaming.
Valerie has a keen understanding of the differences between how men and women think, the difficulties that can cause, and most importantly she has an amazing way of teaching women how to communicate in a way that is actually effective rather than damaging.
I would tell anyone struggling with a relationship to talk to Valerie because she has the insights and tools to help us improve any relationship that is worth saving.