I spent my 27th birthday weeping, dealing with yet another failed relationship, drained by family crises, and overwhelmed with work stress. I had thought I would have my life together by this age, but instead I felt like I’d been stagnating for years. In relationships with the opposite sex I was making the same mistakes as I had for years or slight variations thereof. My friends, who were wonderful and supportive women, were simply out of advice for me. I wasn’t sleeping at night. I was crying often. I felt helpless, but I didn’t know what to do. And I was tired of pouring my heart out to therapists. I didn’t want to discuss my childhood. I needed something more drastic. Val came to my rescue.
Through a random blog I found out about intimacy coaching and was led to Val’s website. I was ready to adopt better life strategies and change my life and that’s what made my experience with over the next few months with Val so positive.
Seeing Val didn’t feel like going to a therapist. Val simply let me take the time I needed to open up and think about my issues. In between sessions she sent me productive assignments to complete and insightful articles to read.
There are tons of self-help resources out there, but Val recommended and gave me the very best. After each session with Val I felt stronger and more confident. The insomnia went away, the spirals into depression ceased. I started dancing this year for the first time in my life. During one of our sessions Val suggested I make a list of how I changed in the last four months so that I could reflect on my growth. Here it is reproduced word for word:
‘I know how to listen to myself and communicate my needs effectively for the first time in my life.
I know how to give myself empathy and compassion.
I know how to listen past and through other people’s weak communication.
I know how to listen to my body and its instincts.
I know how to set aside time for myself and how important it is.
I know how to make effective requests, not demands.
I know how to ask for the support and response I need from others.
I like myself more than I ever have before.’
I feel happier, more stable, and confident than I ever have in my life. At the age of 27 and a half, I’m exactly where I’d always dreamed I’d be. Challenges have arisen for me, but rather than use my old tired script for dealing with them, I use the new script and soundtrack to my life that Val helped me create and it’s rockin. My friends are inspired by my experience and regularly ask me for Val’s take on situations and relationship struggles.
If you’re ready to change your life, don’t hesitate to invest in relationship coaching. It’s an investment in yourself, your emotional wellbeing, and your future. Nothing could be more important.
-M.A.