In my relationship, I would bring up things at the wrong time, and we were fighting frequently. I wanted to be right – rather than resolve the situation. A lot of times my emotions would take over, and they would run wild. So we’d fight and nothing would happen other than me being angry.
With Valerie, we talk about what my needs and wants are, and help me to be empathic with myself and others. The coaching helps me change my way of thinking. I’m learning how to recognize my emotions and shift them, so I can be more centered and connected.
Valerie intuitively senses what I need and reaches a real connection to where I’m at. She explains things in a way I understand; and make sure it gets through to me. She tailor-makes the processes specifically for me so they work in my life. She’s able to sense what is/isn’t working and is committed to things working in my situation. She really does care and believe in what she’s doing. And with the accountability, there’s extra motivation to do the practice, to follow through.
Now I am able to recognize my emotions, and rather than get triggered right away, I focus on what my needs are and being empathic. Instead of arguing, I’m focused on finding solutions. I’m shifting my way of thinking, so the relationship is better. I feel a burden has been lifted because the anger can take hold of me like a vice. Now I feel more peaceful. I’m able to let things go more easily. I can go from being totally angry and saying “how could I not be upset, cause he did this!” Then I go through Valerie’s process, and I can empathize and say “oh, he was going through x,y,z, and that’s why he behaved that way,” so I’m not taking it personally. We feel more connected.