Are you or your partner often too busy to figure out just the right things to say to each other?
My boyfriend and I are both entrepreneurs and can’t always make time to talk on the phone when we’re apart, so we’ve gotten quite creative about texting exactly what makes the other feel loved, valued, and adored!
You know the usual text: “Love you; miss you, etc.” That can feel quite generic. How do you tailor it to what really lights your lover up?
When you know your partner’s unique Love Language, you can really speak directly to their heart. I’ll use Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages as an example. He says that we all have different ways of receiving love, and when you learn to speak your partner’s unique love language, their heart will absorb your love like never before. You can take his quiz to find out your and your partner’s love language here.
I’ll briefly describe each Love Language, and how you can creatively text in a way that deeply touches them ☺
If your partner’s Love Language is physical touch, they feel most loved when receiving affection.
Ok sexting is fun 😉 But you can also write a wide variety of touches that touch their heart too! If your lover’s language is physical touch, you can try saying something like: “Imagine my hand is softly caressing your cheek as I look into your eyes, and that my other hand is lightly caressing the small of your back with light feather strokes as you take in how much I adore you!”
If their Love Language is Quality Time, they value your undivided attention. Obviously, when you’re texting, they don’t have it in that moment, but you can remind them how much you value that and look forward to being with them soon, by being really specific in how you describe your time together. You can say something like, “As I look at the moon, I’m reminded of our recent date under the stars, and it felt like we were the only two people in the world. I long to enjoy your company soon!”
My Love Language is Quality Time, and what I value the most about that is sharing my experience. So when I texted him this morning that I didn’t sleep well because of cramping, he couldn’t have said something more loving than he did: “Sorry that your cramping interrupted your sleep. I do like that you let me know when you’re cramping, and how it affects you, so I can feel even more what you’re experiencing. Please keep sharing and hope you feel better soon. Love you!”
I felt sooooooo loved and adored. And you can imagine what else someone might have said…
Words of Affirmation
If this is their Love Language, they really light up when receiving compliments. It helps when you point out something specific they did, what it did for you, and what quality it showed in them. Even if you’re apart, you can appreciate them. For example, you can say, “When you shared your photos with me, I felt included in your trip, like I was right there with you! I love feeling connected to you like that. You are so considerate!”
Acts of Service
You don’t have to be with them to show your love through making their life easier. If your partner’s love language is Acts of Service, you can do little things for them even when you’re apart, text them what you did, and let them know it’s because you love them so much!
This love language doesn’t just mean buying material things for them. They feel most special when you give them something that shows you’re thinking of them; that they are special to you. The best way to do this over text is to take your time choosing things to take pictures of that would really touch them. Do they love chocolates? Find the best ones and in addition to buying them, (unless it’s a surprise!) take a picture and tell your lover if they were there with you, you’d feed them the chocolates slowly! Do they love dogs? Take a picture of an adorable dog you see when you’re out and send the pic just to touch their heart. The key is to find something unique that says, “I’m thinking of you, even though we’re apart!” and a picture says a thousand words!
Now you probably recognize how profoundly cherished you and your partner can feel if you speak each other’s love language.
How do you show your partner you love them even when you’re apart? Share in the comments below!
And if you’re curious how amazing it would feel to have your partner become fluent in your love language, (like mine is :), let me help you in a Free “Back To Love” Strategy Session, so you can learn how to touch each other’s hearts more deeply than you ever have before!