Does Valentine’s Day feel ho hum for you? Do you wish you and your partner could rekindle the romance you felt in the beginning of your love story?
This is the year to make Valentine’s Day the most romantic celebration of love! Are you wondering how to do that?
I want to share with you 3 tips that will help you and your partner connect in an even deeper way to supercharge your romance. If you’re familiar with Love Languages, read on for ideas on how to apply them in a unique way! If not, you’ll learn about them below.
Tip #1: Warm up the romance between now and Valentine’s. Just like you need foreplay (usually) to lead up to a fantastic climax together, it’s hard to go from feeling disconnected to having a fabulous celebration of love on Valentine’s Day. So between now and then, what can you do to speak your partner’s love language so they feel loved and in the mood for romance? How can you help your partner feel inspired to show you how loved and cherished you are this Valentine’s Day?
Here’s how to lead up to Valentine’s Day this week: Consider your partner’s love wiring and yours. What would be most exciting for each of you?
Touch: Give each other short massages, head rubs or foot rubs.
Words of Affirmation: Appreciate each other every day, even for little things.
Quality Time: Plan more time for connection the week before Valentine’s so they’ll feel more prioritized leading up to it. Even if you’re busy, you can find time to catch up about your days.
Acts of Service: Fix something in the house or clean something you’ve been putting off; stock the fridge with their favorite beverage or food item.
Gifts: Buy tickets to their favorite show or game; cook their favorite meal. If they’re a foodie, you can get them tickets to a chef’s table at a restaurant.
Tip #2: Use Your Love Languages to Plan a Romantic Day on Valentine’s. Here are a few suggestions:
Touch: Get a couples massage, go to the spa together (That’s our Valentine’s tradition)
Words of Affirmation: Write each other love letters appreciating all the things you’ve done for each other this year and how it made you feel. My partner and I did that a couple years ago and it was incredibly touching and moving.
Quality Time: Plan a romantic trip together. You can spend Valentine’s fantasizing about the trip.
Acts of Service: Cook a romantic meal together, light candles, and enjoy a romantic evening in.
Gifts: You can buy personalized fortune cookies or candy hearts and fill them with things you appreciate about your partner, then open them on Valentine’s day.
If you suggest these things and you get pushback, you can ask, “Ok, what would you like to do to celebrate our love?” And collaborate. If they seem resistant, there might be residual conflict in the way, in which case, see Tip #3.
Tip #3: Clear the residual conflict so you can get the romance back.
Don’t spend another Valentine’s Day unhappy, unfulfilled or just going through the motions. You can have Soul Shaking Love and I can support you on how to get that right now!