Do you know what your core values are? Are you worried that if you stick to what you believe in most, you’ll drive away people?
Or maybe you think you need to find someone who matches your values to be happy.
I’m here to tell you that the more you live true to your deepest values, the more you’ll attract quality men (and others) who really get you. If you’re single, you’ll radiate confidence and maturity. If you’re with someone right now, you’ll inspire your partner that you’re the one, a keeper (if he’s right for you). You’ll be the prize of prizes.
I’m sure you’ve heard it’s important to make a list of the qualities you want in a man, and we have information on that. It’s important to know yourself and what you want in your man.
What I find most important is sharing your most essential values, having a compatible life vision, and feeling gotten, cherished, loved, and empowered to be who you most want to be in life.
He doesn’t need to match your values, but he should respect and honor them.
What Are Values?
Values are what make life meaningful to you. They guide your decisions and actions. They’re your internal compass. Examples of values are honesty, creativity, freedom, security, family, love, and service to others.
These are concepts of ideals. Many people confuse values with actions. For example, telling the truth is an action and honesty is a value. They are very similar. But, if a person values honesty, they will tell the truth. But if they value something else, such comfort over honesty, they might not tell the uncomfortable truths. That’s why it’s important to discover someone else’s values before you commit to them.
Values rarely change.
The more you embody your most significant values, the more you connect to your inner radiance. The more you identify your values, the easier it will be recognized when you meet a partner with compatible values. You will realize who will honor who you are and treat you with kindness. This is more important than shared interests.
Let’s do an exercise to discover your top values for you as an individual and the top values you want to share with your life partner.
To discover your values, you can ask yourself the following questions at the end of this blog. You don’t have to write the answers to these questions, just contemplate them. You also don’t have to worry about picking the “right” word.
What’s important is writing out what your values mean to you and how you know you’re experiencing or expressing it!
You want to create a romantic future for yourself more delicious, nourishing, and mind/body/soul-fulfilling than you’ve ever had. Living your values is the way to do that.
For this, you need to dream greater than you ever have before and dig deeper into yourself than you may want to. You need to be excited and inspired by the vision of love that you want to create, so you can motivate your man to create it with you.
Living your values and understanding what they mean to you helps you make choices that inspire your life. Then, you can make the right connection with the right man.
Men aren’t always sure what they want romantically until they meet a woman who inspires him on a soul-level with her vision for the love she wants to create. When you live your values, you don’t need to do anything to inspire him, just live your life to the fullest.
To discover your values, you can ask yourself the following questions while looking at this handout .
You don’t have to write the answers to these questions; just contemplate them when doing the assignment below.
- What is the most important thing about you as a person? Who do you want to be to feel satisfied with your life even when you are in challenging situations?
- Think about a time when life was perfect. What value was expressed or honored?
- Think about a time when you were upset. What value was challenged?
- When you think about what gets you out of bed in the morning, which words move you the most?
- What is your legacy? What would you want your family and friends to say about you when they toast your 80th birthday? What would they say about how they appreciate you, what you have meant to them, how you have inspired them, and why they love and respect you so much?
I know the list is long and can seem overwhelming, but start by circling all the words that feel right and then narrow it down to 5 or 10. Then ask yourself: If you’re single, where are you likely to meet men who share your values? If you’re married, how can you live more true to your values and inspire your partner to be true to theirs?
And, of course, it can help to have support. I’ve guided countless people through this process and helped them to live true to themselves and attract/re-ignite a passionate love life! If you are considering hiring a coach to help you live the love life of your dreams, then I encourage you to apply for a free Breakthrough To Lasting Love Session here.
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