Do you tend to give your heart away too quickly?
Many women develop strong feelings quickly that come with expectations about how he needs to show up for them, and then get angry when he doesn’t meet those expectations.
Or because we have such strong feelings, we think we need to show him how great we are so we do things for him. We take on the masculine role and call him, ask him out, cook for him, and he stops pursuing cause we’re the pursuer and then we don’t know where we stand with him and we feel insecure.
Not giving our heart away too quickly until a man has earned it is not about playing games; it’s about understanding that men only value what they invest in. It’s about turning your expectations into standards and deciding you won’t give your heart to someone who hasn’t shown you he can value it. Then you don’t have to put expectations on a particular man until he says he wants to be the one that you depend on.
How do you do this? Helena Hart recently interviewed me on this topic.
You’ll learn how to:
- Have your feelings match his level of investment
- Discover whether he’s investing in you or if he just wants to pursue you for sex
- What to do if you keep obsessing over a particular man
- Turn your expectations into standards and know how to tell if he’s worth giving your heart to
You can watch the video here:
With Love,
Valerie
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