Talor's work reveals what most of us never think about: that the physical layout of our living spaces can either promote co-regulation and connection or keep us stuck in low-grade fight-or-flight. Whether you're a homeowner, a renter, a couple, or single, this conversation will change the way you see every room in your home - and give you practical ways to set up your space to support the relationships that matter most.

Here are some of the questions Talor answers in our interview: 

1. The quality of our relationships is the number one predictor of happiness and longevity. If our homes are the containers for those relationships, what makes a home’s design "conscious"?

2. How can a home actively promote co-regulation between partners rather than constant low-grade stress?

3. You talk about giving, receiving, and reciprocal zones. What do those look like in practice, and how can we create all three - even in a small space?

4. What room is the heart of the home, and why?

5. Couples rarely argue in wide-open, peaceful spaces - friction tends to peak during chaotic transitions like the entryway. How can we design around that?

6. Open layouts like a studio apartment can force constant, unchosen proximity. How can singles and couples set up space for both togetherness and individual creative expression?

If you want Talor’s free PDF download of the 5 Best Plants for Indoor Air Quality, it’s available on https://conscioushomedesign.com/ as an exit pop or people can email him directly with 5 plants in the subject and he’ll send that over (yes@conscioushomedesign.com)

You can also email him for his relationship exercise as a PDF. 

Here’s the link to his book: https://conscioushomedesign.com/book

More About Talor Stewart:

Talor Stewart is a licensed architect with over 25 years experience. His book Conscious Home Design has hit the #1 best seller list in 7 countries so far. Specializing in single and multi-family homes and intentional communities, he works with clients all over the United States and select places internationally. He also offers a certification program for other designers and architects to learn the CHD method to help their clients apply the life changing principles wherever they are. Find out more by visiting https://ConsciousHomeDesign.com

Most couples don't see it happen in real time. It's not one big rupture — it's a series of small retreats. A conversation you didn't finish. A bid for connection that went unanswered. A moment where vulnerability felt too risky, so you pulled back instead. Over time, these micro-retreats create what Dr. Lee Baucom calls "hitting the Pause Button" — and once a marriage is on pause, disconnection quietly takes root and begins undermining the bond from the inside.

The good news? A marriage can also be un-paused. That's why I was excited to talk with Lee, who specializes in helping individuals break through the internal barriers — fear, identity, and mindset — that keep them disconnected. His work has made him a trusted voice for anyone ready to do the hard, important work of transforming their relationship from the inside out.

Here's what we cover in our interview:

1) What IS a Pause Button Marriage?

2) Why does that happen?

3) What are the 3 levels of connection, and why are they so important?

4) How can one person start the process of UN-pausing their marriage?

You can learn more about Dr. Lee Baucom, and access his free guide,  at https://savethemarriage.com/

His app is: unpauseyourmarriage.com

And here’s the link to his podcast: https://savethemarriage.com/stmblog/

More about Dr. Lee Baucom

Dr. Lee Baucom. is a marriage coach, author of seven books, and host of the Save The Marriage Podcast and Thriveology Podcast. For over two decades, he's helped thousands of couples pull back from the brink of divorce through his coaching, online programs, and a straightforward philosophy: he can't save your marriage. But he can show you how to. Dr. Baucom specializes in helping individuals break through the internal barriers — fear, identity, and mindset — that keep them stuck, and his work has made him a trusted voice for anyone who wants to do the hard, important work of transforming their relationship.

In this episode of Soul-Shaking Love, Samantha shares how disorganized attachment shaped her relationships and manifested as a neurological diagnosis, what Rapid Transformational Therapy actually does differently than traditional talk therapy, and the three-step “Sweet Soul Process” she now uses to help women uncover their survival blueprint, take off the armor, and arrive at lasting self-love. She also shares how her marriage transformed when she stopped operating from survival and started giving from fullness rather than depletion.

Here are the questions Samantha answers in our interview:

• Tell us your story — how did disorganized attachment show up in your marriage, and how did the stress eventually manifest as a PNES diagnosis?
• What was the turning point that led you from that crisis to becoming a women’s empowerment practitioner? What did that path of self-discovery look like?
• For people who haven’t heard of RTT — how does Rapid Transformational Therapy actually work, and what makes it different from traditional therapy?
• Walk us through your Sweet Soul Process: uncovering the survival blueprint, taking off the armor, and arriving at soul-deep self-love. What does that look like in practice?
• How has your marriage and your relationship with yourself changed since doing this work?
• What would you say to a woman right now who is high-functioning on the outside but feels like her body or her relationships are betraying her on the inside?

You can get Samantha’s free gift here: https://www.sweetsoulandwellness.com/free-gift

Unlocks a personalized 5 minute Mindset Transformation recording. Listen once to twice a day for 21 days to unleash your inner cheerleader.

More about Samantha Mandell: 

Samantha Mandell is an Inner Foundation Coach, dedicated FND Advocate, and certified Rapid Transformational Therapy Practitioner who helps women stop surviving their minds and start loving their lives straight to their souls.

She didn't learn her method from a clinical textbook; she bought it with receipts from her own life after a devastating health diagnosis put her world on a complete pause. By using subconscious rewiring to evict her toxic inner critic, she radically transformed her health, her marriage, and her daily peace.

She’s the host of the Skirts Up podcast, the founder of Sweet Soul Wellness, and someone who firmly believes that even when life brings storms, you can still learn to play in the mud.

That’s why I decided to sit down with dating coach and women’s mentor Lauren Salaun. Lauren’s mission is helping women break free from “boss babe” hustle culture and come home to their feminine essence:  owning their worth from the inside out, regulating their nervous systems, and creating lives that feel magnetic, spacious, and deeply aligned.

In this episode, Lauren and I dive into:

• The 4 keys to being magnetic no matter what: regardless of what you look like or what you say.

• Lauren’s personal journey from burnout to deep satisfaction with herself and her life

• What it really means to have an unshakable self-concept: and what that looks like in practice

• The difference between being “strong and independent” and being energetically stuck in your masculine: and how that impacts polarity and attraction

• How to move from hustle to harmony: practical shifts to start breaking free of boss babe burnout

• The role somatic practices and nervous system regulation play in feminine magnetism and self-worth

• How to communicate your desires in a way that draws people toward you rather than pushing them away

You can access Lauren’s Queen Codes workshop for free here: https://www.laurensalaun.com/queen-codes

And here is her Feminine energy texting guide:  https://www.laurensalaun.com/text-like-a-queen

You can get Valerie’s Commitment Roadmap ebook here: https://coachvaleriegreene.com/commitment

More about Lauren Salaun

Lauren Salaun is an accomplished entrepreneur, speaker, transformational facilitator, certified somatic life and success coach, host of the AMPLIFY podcast, and public relations and visibility expert.

Her mission is to help women break free from “boss babe” hustle culture and step into their feminine essence—owning their worth, regulating their nervous systems, and creating lives that feel magnetic, spacious, and deeply aligned. She empowers women to embrace their authenticity, elevate their standards, strengthen their boundaries, and attract healthy love and abundance. As a neurodivergent woman, Lauren has a unique ability to support other neurodivergent women in navigating their path with confidence and magnetism.

Lauren is an entrepreneur, speaker, transformational facilitator, and somatic life coach dedicated to supporting women in embodying their feminine energy, healing their nervous systems, and reprogramming their subconscious minds so that they can become wildly magnetic. She empowers women to break free from “boss babe” hustle culture, own their worth, activate their power, and invite more ease and flow into their lives.

Lauren loves supporting women with attracting their dream relationship by embracing their feminine essence, elevating their standards, upholding their boundaries, and becoming a magnet for healthy love. She specializes in working with high-achieving women, and as a neurodivergent woman, she is especially adept at supporting other neurodivergent women. Lauren is the host of the AMPLIFY podcast, where she explores personal growth, dating and relationships, mindset, and more.

That's why I sat down with Zerina Derveni, who helps people break free from self-doubt and lack of clarity to embrace their authentic selves with confidence and purpose. In our soulful conversation, we explore what it truly means to come home to yourself.

Using her five-stage framework — Awareness, Unlearning, Exploration, Integration, and Living Authentically — Zerina shares her own journey of transforming her identity from something she performed into something she joyfully embodies.

We dive into cultivating nervous system safety, setting boundaries that feel loving rather than rigid, and shifting from anxious or avoidant patterns into a grounded, secure sense of self.

This is the practice of returning, again and again, to who you really are.

Questions:

• What does “coming home to yourself” mean on a practical level, and how can someone begin when they feel disconnected or lost?
• What is your personal journey of coming home to yourself?
• You often talk about awareness of the subconscious — how can we start recognizing the hidden patterns that quietly shape our identity and relationships?
• Your five-stage framework moves from Awareness to Living Authentically. Which stage do most people get stuck in, and what helps them move forward with compassion rather than pressure?
• What’s one thing we can do right now?

Zerina is offering a Free gift Complimentary 30 min Life Strategy Call to my audience. You can learn more about that here: https://www.zerinalifecoach.com/contact

More about Zerina Derveni

Zerina Derveni is a distinguished Life Coach who specializes in empowering high-performing women and organizations to unlock their full potential. Specializing in guiding women who feel lost, stuck, or simply curious to level up, Zerina helps them embrace their inner strength, overcome obstacles, and create lasting transformation in both their personal and professional lives.

With a rich Executive background in strategic consulting and client engagement with Fortune 500 brands for over a decade, Zerina brings a unique blend of expertise in personal growth, professional development and transformational coaching. 

Her tailored coaching approach is designed for those who seek transformative results, and the clarity needed to thrive lives. Whether pursuing greater personal fulfillment, enhancing relationships or navigating career shifts, Zerina provides the high-level guidance and actionable strategies that lead to lasting success. Invest in yourself and achieve your highest aspirations with Zerina’s bespoke coaching services.

Many of us grow up absorbing invisible templates — about who we should be, how we should love, what we should tolerate — long before we're old enough to question them. And then one day, we look around and realize the life we've built doesn't feel like ours.

That's why I was so excited to talk with Joni, author of Burned, Blocked, and Better Than Ever. In this episode, she shares her deeply personal journey of waking up to the toxic blueprints that shaped her — from childhood trauma and emotional control to religious pressure and painful relationship patterns — and the courageous process of dismantling them to create something real.

What I love about this conversation is that it doesn't stay in the pain. Joni's story is ultimately about what becomes possible on the other side: reclaiming your voice, rebuilding your identity, and discovering that healing isn't just surviving — it's creating a life you actually love. If you've ever felt like you were living someone else's script, this one will meet you right where you are.

Here's what we cover in our interview:

-What inspired you to write Burned, Blocked, and Better Than Ever?

-In your book, you talk about "Blueprints." What do you mean by that, and how do those blueprints shape our relationships?

-How did your childhood experiences impact the way you saw love, safety, and self-worth?

-What does emotional control or religious control look like when someone is living inside it but doesn't fully recognize it yet?

-Was there a specific tipping point where you realized you had to choose healing and freedom for yourself?

-What did you have to unlearn in order to start building healthier relationships?

-How did divorce become not just an ending, but also a turning point in your healing journey?

-How do faith, authenticity, and emotional intelligence work together in the healing process?

-What does being "better than ever" actually look like in real life — not just on social media, but in the hard, everyday moments?

Free Gift: Breaking the Blueprint Reflection Guide

This free downloadable guide is designed to help you begin identifying the unhealthy relationship patterns, beliefs, and emotional survival habits that may be keeping you stuck. Inside, you'll receive reflection prompts and healing insights to help you better understand your story, reconnect with your voice, and start taking practical steps toward emotional freedom, healthier boundaries, and more authentic relationships.

Get your free guide here: https://joniwoods.com

And you can see the full version of Joni's book, "Burned, Blocked, and Better Than Ever" here: https://amzn.to/485eCap

More about Joni Woods:

Joni Woods is the author of Burned, Blocked, and Better Than Ever: A Raw Journey of Healing, a deeply personal and empowering memoir about breaking free from toxic relational patterns, emotional pain, religious pressure, and the "Blueprints" that keep so many people trapped in cycles of fear, guilt, and disconnection.

Through honest storytelling and hard-earned wisdom, Joni shares what it looks like to reclaim your voice, rebuild your identity, heal relational wounds, and create a life rooted in authenticity, emotional health, faith, and freedom.

Her passion is helping people foster healthier relationships — with themselves, their children, their faith, and the people they love — while reminding them that healing, joy, and real love are still possible after heartbreak, trauma, and loss.

That’s why I decided to interview Anil Gupta, who’s known as “The Love Doctor,” about his “Happiness Formula.”

In 2008 Anil Gupta was suicidal and he not only found a way to overcome his adversity and thrive, but he was determined to distill a formula for how anyone can choose to make themself happy no matter what their outer circumstances are. 

Sound like a tall order in today’s world? That’s why I wanted to pick his brain about his Happiness Formula. And what’s more, he’s also offering his book for free to my audience. 

Here’s what we cover in our interview: 

Why do they call you the love doctor?

How did you overcome your own depression and challenges?

What is the Happiness formula?

What are some practical things that you can do right now that can increase your levels of happiness?

How can people overcome upsets?

Why do relationships fail and how can we harmonize them?

Why is dating so challenging and how can we enjoy the process more?

You can get Anil’s book for free here: https://meetanil.com/happiness-book

More about Anil Gupta: 

Anil helps singles, couples and families overcome their struggles and issues in relationships and communication in a rapid and powerful manner with proven results so they can live richer, fuller lives filled with love.

Anil is a triple best-selling international author and TEDx Speaker, positively impacting very large audiences in over 18 countries. Anil overcame suicide in 2008 and has since then formulated the Happiness Formula, The Happiness Test, the Relationship Score and the Relationship Ratio.

He has been featured in numerous publications and media outlets including i Heart radio, Fox News, Sky TV, Harvard, ABC, NBC and much more. Anil has coached celebrities including Mike Tyson, was a guest speaker with Richard Branson on Necker Island and has been invited by heads of state and spiritual leaders like the Dalai Lama to meet them.

Anil overcame suicide in 2008 and has since then formulated the Happiness Formula, The Happiness Test, the Relationship Score and the Relationship Ratio.

He has held relationship and mindset workshops in over 18 countries translated in 8 languages, with audiences of over 10,000 fans. Anil has a unique intuitive gift to remove the blockages that prevent people living fulfilled lives, using his intuitive and proven skill sets.

Here are his links for social media: 

https://www.facebook.com/AnilLoveDoc

https://www.instagram.com/anilgupta_lovedoctor

https://www.linkedin.com/in/anilgupta-lovedoctor

Most of us have been taught to approach dating from the neck up: analyze the red flags, optimize our profiles, figure out “what we want.” But what if your body already knows things your mind is still catching up to? 

That’s why I decided to interview Amber Lavin, a conscious dating and relationship coach who helps people  stop chasing and attract a partner who is truly right for them. In this episode, we explore embodied dating — what it actually means, why so many smart, growth-oriented people still end up in unfulfilling relationships, and how accessing your body’s wisdom can change everything. If you’re tired of overthinking your love life and ready to actually feel your way toward connection, this one’s for you.

Here’s what we cover in our interview: 

-What does “embodied dating” actually mean? How is it different from just going on dates and meeting people?

-How can someone start tuning into their body and emotions when dating? Are there small practices you recommend?

-How does being out of touch with your body or feelings keep people stuck in unfulfilling relationships?

-What is one common mistake you see people making when dating that keeps them from finding conscious, emotionally available partners?

-Can you share a simple exercise or practice that listeners can try today to start feeling more connected and present on dates

You can get Amber’s free gift, 21 Day Becoming Secure in Love Journey, here: https://mailchi.mp/9273ce069520/knyr2ntiry

A guided experience to help you date with confidence, clarity, and calm delivered straight to your inbox.

Each day you will receive a short audio meditation and reflection prompt designed to help you reconnect with yourself, regulate your emotions, and open to genuine connection. The journey moves through three phases of transformation, Love as the Foundation, Embodiment and Presence, and Opening to Connection, so you can build confidence from the inside out.

You will also receive a beautifully designed digital journal to track your insights, deepen your reflections, and integrate what you learn each day.

Perfect for women ready to break old patterns, feel secure in love, and enjoy dating as a mindful, self-honoring practice.

Here is Ambers Facebook Group: 

https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1Bdx7HyFHA/?mibextid=wwXIfr

More about Amber Lavin: 

Amber Lavin is a longtime meditation practitioner who specializes in mind-body connection, attachment theory, and mindfulness-based relational work. She helps individuals navigate the complexities of dating and relationships by guiding them toward deeper self-awareness, emotional attunement, and embodied presence. Through a holistic and evidence based approach, Amber supports individuals in cultivating intentional relationships that align with their values and needs, believing that true connection begins from within.

What if the path to lasting change wasn’t more effort, but more pleasure?

That’s why I sat down with Lauren Harkness, co-founder of The Tantra Institute, advanced certified tantra educator, and somatic trauma facilitator. Lauren has spent years helping people heal sexual trauma, transform repeating relationship patterns, and come home to their bodies as a source of wisdom, pleasure, and power. In our interview, she dropped many of nuggets of embodied wisdom that felt like coming home to myself.

In this episode, we explore:

∙ What role the body and nervous system play in how we attach, connect, and relate — especially in intimate relationships

∙ How unprocessed trauma or stored stress shows up in intimacy, conflict, or desire

∙ How learning to source fulfillment and aliveness from within yourself changes the way you show up in relationships

∙ Practices you can try to build more presence, self-trust, and nervous system safety

If you’ve ever felt like you know what you want in love but can’t seem to embody it, this conversation is for you.

Lauren offered a free 5‑minute Sensual Activation Practice: https://laurenharkness.kartra.com/page/Blissful-path More about Lauren Harkness:

Lauren is a trained Tantrika and Advanced Certified Tantra Educator with Charles Muir’s Source School of Tantra. She also studied Lafayette Morehouse practices and is trained in the D/s arts and Shamanism with Om Rupani, Somatic Experiencing with Peter Levine, and is a Mastery Graduate of Mama Gena's School of Womanly Arts. A jewelry designer and seductress, Lauren is a stand for everyone ready to heal and further ignite their sexual self, sovereign and free!

She teaches Tantra and other modalities of healing and personal growth.  

She also offers private Tantra Sessions, Coaching Sessions, and Reiki Healing Attunements. 

She teaches large group classes internationally and has taught at Burning Man, FYN, Dark Odyssey, and is the Co-Founder of The Tantra Institute of NY.

"When you touch one thing with deep awareness, you touch everything."

- Thich Nhat Hanh

Here's a question: Would you ever run a business with no clear roles, no regular check-ins, no shared strategy, and just... hope it all works out? Probably not. And yet — that's exactly how most of us run our relationships. We wing it. We cross our fingers. We assume love will handle the details.

Sometimes it does! Often... not so much.

That's what this episode of Soul-Shaking Love is all about. Dr. Robin Buckley of Marriage Inc. takes a business lens to your relationship — not to suck the romance out of it (I promise!), but to help it actually hold together when life gets messy. Think of it this way: love is the mission. Structure is what keeps the mission from going off the rails.

What I love about this framework is that it gives you and your partner a way to talk about the unglamorous stuff — who does what, how you make decisions, how you check in before the small annoyances snowball into those "we need to talk" conversations. You learn to catch issues early, talk about them without getting defensive, and actually steer your relationship instead of just reacting when things blow up.

This isn't about perfection. It's not about keeping the spark at a constant 10 (who can do that?!). It's about building something that can handle real life — a relationship that's stable, connected, and strong enough to grow with you.

If that sounds good, you're going to love this one.

Here are some questions that Dr. Robin Buckley answers during our interview: 

Why do so many relationships fail even when there’s real love and good intentions?

What does it actually mean to run a relationship like a business, and what does it not mean?

What are the early warning signs that a relationship’s systems are breaking down, long before a crisis hits?

Why is a shared vision more important than chemistry over time?

What’s some “boardroom-level” strategies every couple should be having on a regular basis?

For someone who feels like their relationship is already in trouble, where should they start first?

You can use code MARRIAGE20 for 20% off her book Marriage Inc.: The Boardroom Blueprint for a Lasting Love at

https://drrobinbuckley.com/books

More about Dr. Robin Buckley 

Dr. Robin Buckley holds a PhD in clinical psychology from Hofstra University, where she specialized in cognitive behavioral methodology and executive coaching. Her work has been featured by Entrepreneur, Chief, Authority Magazine, Nike, and on the TED stage in 2023.

Her data-driven coaching helps organizations, couples, and individuals create practical plans to reach their goals in both work and life. She’s the author of three books, with her latest, Marriage Inc.: The Boardroom Blueprint for a Lasting Love, which hit best seller status on Amazon in 2025.

With a blend of science, strategy, and heart, Robin gives people the tools to move from hoping things will get better to actually building the results they want.

In their latest book, Transforming the Shame Triangle: From Shame to Love Using Parts Work, Jessica Fern and David Cooley offer a fresh framework that uses parts work to help us see that shame is part of an internal “Drama Triangle” that they call “The Shame Triangle” and they present a groundbreaking system, integrating IFS with other modalities, to transform shame into Self-Love. When I saw that, I knew I needed to interview them to share these tools with more people. :) 

What makes their approach particularly valuable is the practical integration of parts work, giving us concrete tools rather than abstract concepts. They share some of these tools in our interview. 

Here’s what we covered in this groundbreaking interview: 

What is parts work in the IFS context?

What is the Shame Triangle & what is its destructive impact?

How do we heal Shame at its roots—not just manage it?

How do we transform the Shame Triangle into the self-Love Triangle?

What does integrating the Self-Love Triangle as a new way of living look like?

How have these tools helped you and your clients tangibly experience more love, creativity, and resourcefulness in all relationships? 

If you’re someone who has felt the weight of shame and wondered how to move through it, this interview meets you where you are. The authors bring both professional expertise and genuine warmth to a topic that too often gets treated with clinical distance or, worse, more shame.

You can get their book, "Transforming the Shame Triangle," here: https://amzn.to/4a5mEQE

Jessica and David are teaching an 8-week online course to help you integrate and deepen the work in their book. It launches at the end of February of 2026. You can learn more about that here: https://the-azurite-way.mykajabi.com/transforming-the-shame-triangle-feb-2026

Here are their other books:

"Polysecure" by Jessica Fern: https://amzn.to/4bzCSnC

"Polywise" By Jessica Fern and David Cooley: https://amzn.to/3LLJpRG

More about Jessica Fern and David Cooley:

Jessica Fern is a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, a trained Internal Family Systems (IFS) practitioner, and an integrative therapist drawing on 25 years of experience in somatic, narrative, psychotherapeutic, and spiritual healing modalities. She is the internationally recognized author of Polysecure, and the coauthor with David Cooley of the books Polywise and their newest book Transforming the Shame Triangle. You can learn more about her work at: https://www.jessicafern.com/

David Cooley is a professional Restorative Justice facilitator, diversity and privilege awareness trainer, and bilingual cultural broker. He is the creator of the Restorative Relationship Conversations model, a process that transforms interpersonal conflict into deeper connection, intimacy and repair. You can learn more about his work at: https://www.restorativerelationship.com/

That’s why I chose to interview Raffi Bilek. Raffi has developed a streamlined formula for how to communicate with your partner in a way that inspires connection rather than conflict and isolation - even when it comes to the really hard stuff. He has helped hundreds of couples improve their communication, boost their connection, recover from hurts and betrayals, and, in many cases, save their marriages.

He shares his formula in our interview and also in his book, “The Couples Communication Handbook,” which he talks about in our interview. 

Here are some questions that Raffi answers in our interview: 

• Why is communication so important for connection?
• What do people get wrong about communication?
• How can conflict breed connections?
• What can you do when you’re upset so that your communication lands well? 
• What are the formulas to share your feelings, desires, and resolve issues so you can feel closer rather than more distant? 

You can get the first 2 chapters of Raffi’s book, “The Couples Communication Handbook“ for free at https://www.thecommunicationbook.com/ (PDF or audio files!)

More about Raffi Bilek: 

Raffi Bilek has been working with couples across the globe for over a decade. He has helped hundreds of couples improve their communication, boost their connection, recover from hurts and betrayals, and, in many cases, save their marriages.

​Before that, Raffi earned a degree in computer science from Brown University, but never much enjoyed it because the computers wouldn’t laugh at his humor. Besides being a couples counselor and a computer programmer, Raffi is a dad to four girls, a former swing dancer, an Orthodox Jewish rabbi, and a nationally ranked Scrabble player.

​Raffi speaks English, Hebrew, French, and Spanish, has seen the fjords (they really are that good), and enjoys playing word games and telling good (and bad) jokes. He deeply loves his wife, but frankly wishes she got more of his jokes.

That's exactly why I wanted to talk to Davina Hehn, an anger management expert. We get into why anger shows up so differently in different people, how emotional reactivity hijacks connection, and what actually helps couples move from blowing up to repair. Davina introduces the idea of anger archetypes, explains how your nervous system shapes your conflict patterns, and shares practical ways to respond to anger with curiosity—not defensiveness.

Here’s what we cover in our interview: 

Why is anger so demonized in romantic relationships? 

How do you differentiate “healthy anger” from reactive or destructive anger? 

What’s actually happening in the nervous system during emotional blowups? 

Why do some people explode while others shut down during conflict? 

How does childhood conditioning or attachment style shape our anger responses?

What’s the most common mistake couples make when anger shows up? 

How can someone respond differently in the moment (before things escalate)? 

How can people learn their anger patterns and practice regulation in real time? 

This conversation is for anyone who’s ever thought, “Why do we keep having the same fight?”—and is ready to understand what anger is really trying to say in love.

You can get Davina’s free Anger Archetype Quiz here: https://asteadyspace.com/anger-archetype-quiz

More about Davina Hehn: Davina Hehn is a trained therapist turned mental health coach, speaker, and founder of A Steady Space. She helps people transform explosive reactions, simmering resentment, and shutdown habits into emotional clarity and connection. Her work is rooted in her own powerful story of healing a struggling marriage and rewriting the patterns she inherited. Davina specializes in Anger Intelligence and building healthier communication that strengthens families across generations, empowering parents to raise children in ways worth repeating. 

Creating Conscious Relationships is a bold, heart-led conversation about connecting with awareness. We explore how self-honesty, emotional responsibility, and spiritual maturity transform the way we connect—so relationships become a place of growth, truth, and real partnership.

Here’s what we cover in our interview:

• Why is it important to create a conscious relationship with yourself before you create one with your partner?
• How does not knowing yourself sabotage a relationship?
• What skills are important to keep a relationship thriving?
• Why are unspoken expectations dangerous? What is it important to clarify before you invest your time and energy? 
• How can conflict to create an opening for intimacy instead of distance between partners?

You can get LaShawn’s books here: 

“I Am Not an Option: A Woman’s Guide to Self-Love and Relationships” https://amzn.to/44Fin4G

“Before We Go Any Further: Pre-Engagement Workbook for Couples” https://amzn.to/4s959Hv

You can get in touch with her through her website: https://lashawnmccrary.com/

More about LaShawn McCrary: 

LaShawn McCrary is a multi-talented woman whose passion for empowerment shines through her diverse pursuits. From her self-reflective books, “I Am Not an Option: A Woman’s Guide to Self-Love and Relationships” and “Before We Go Any Further: Pre-Engagement Workbook for Couples,” to her roles as a conscious relationship coach, speaker and energy healer. LaShawn is dedicated to uplifting others and helping them realize their full potential. Her love for travel, fitness, literature, and gourmet cuisine enriches her life, while her commitment to teaching and learning fuels her endeavors. Currently based in Metro Atlanta, LaShawn’s mission is to encourage individuals to harness their strength and live a truly divine life.

Reprogramming childhood patterns is one of my favorite topics, so I decided to sit down with Matthew Riven, a coach and guide who helps people break the relational patterns they inherited — from childhood, culture, and past pain — and create relationships rooted in truth, power, and choice.

In our lively interview, we unpack how those stories sneak into our adult relationships, how they influence the way we show up with a partner, and how we can finally rewrite them for good.

Here are some of the topics we cover in our interview:

What are script beliefs, and how do they shape our adult relationships?

How does childhood shape the way we relate to power and intimacy as adults?

What does it mean to "perform" or "wear a mask" vs. authentic connection?

What does Matthew's work as a Dom have to do with healing relationship patterns? (And what do people often misunderstand about that?)

Why are so many people terrified of their own desire — and how can they begin to reclaim it?

Matthew offered a free gift to my audience, a free 30-minute session with him: https://stirinstitute.com/intro

A free 30-minute one-on-one session with Matthew to explore the relationship patterns that might be keeping you stuck — and what it is you want your relationships TO look like. Whether you're navigating partnership or feeling disconnected from your own needs, this is a chance to slow down, get honest about what’s actually running the show, and learn what is possible!  Include the phrase "Soul-shaking love" in your intake form so I know where you’re coming from.

More about Matthew Riven:

Matthew Riven is a coach and guide who helps people break the relational patterns they inherited — from childhood, culture, and past pain — and create relationships rooted in truth, power, and choice. He’s trained in Transactional Analysis and Re-decision Therapy, with a focus on power and desire dynamics, and brings a deeply grounded, sometimes irreverent approach to intimacy, shame, and personal transformation.

He also draws on experience from his training as a Professional Dom — not about leather and chains, but about emotional attunement, boundaries, and self-regulation. Who better to understand how we relate to power?

His clients are often successful on the outside, but secretly exhausted from performing the life they were told to want. Matthew helps them stop apologizing for their desire, get honest about their patterns, and build relationships that are real.

Our interview reveals what's really going on (hint: it's not what you think!) and what couples can do to return to connection, flow, and deeper intimacy, love and pleasure.

Here's what we cover in our interview:

1. What are the top 3 reasons why couples might have mismatched sex drives?

2. How can we discover what really turns us on? 

3.Once we identify what we want, how do we communicate it in a way that doesn’t kill their turn-on?

4. What is the most effective way for couples to resolve differences in sex drive?

5. How can couples get what they want without sacrificing their needs or desires just to please the other?

Here are Susan's free gifts:

https://www.pathwaytopleasure.com/pleasure-keys.html The Pleasure Keys e-Guide is a free guide to deepening connection, enhancing pleasure, and reaching your orgasmic potential. Learn the first triad of the Pleasure Keys Process tm and practical things you can do right away to experience more mutual sexual fulfillment.

Here's how to take Susan's Sexual Speedometer Test: https://susanmorgantaylor.kit.com/967f66a91a

More about Susan Morgan Taylor:

Susan Morgan Taylor, MA, is a leading somatic sex therapist who helps couples deepen their intimacy and create lasting, fulfilling connections. With over 25 years of experience in somatic healing, she developed The Pleasure Keys Process™, a powerful approach to reigniting sexual and emotional harmony in relationships. After a personal awakening from a sexless marriage, Susan became passionate about helping others remove obstacles to pleasure, love, and orgasm. She is also the creator of the Pleasure Keys Retreats and host of the Sex Talk Café Podcast. When not working, she enjoys hiking and singing karaoke in the mountains of Western North Carolina.

This week, I sat down with Zoey Charif, author of Love Can, In Fact, Be Calculated, to unpack the science (and soul) of lasting love. Zoey spent two decades decoding patterns of human attraction, pulling from her background in criminology, data analytics, and a drive to challenge everything we’ve been taught about love. She reveals what secretly destroys connection—and the small but powerful shifts that can bring it back to life.

Here’s what she covered in our interview: 

-What inspired Zoey to explore the idea that love can actually be calculated?

-What are the most important findings that determine whether love thrives or fades?

-Zoey says that self-worth is the foundation for healthy love. What are the signs someone’s operating from low self-worth—and how can they shift that from the inside out?

-Zoey says that admiration is crucial in long-term relationships, and settling leads to resentment. Why is admiration so essential—and how can people hold out for alignment without closing their hearts?

-For people who keep choosing the same kind of partner and getting hurt, what do her findings reveal about how to break that pattern?

-How can someone use her insights to make their current relationship stronger, not just to find “the right person”?

You can learn more about Zoey’s book, Love Can, In Fact, Be Calculated, here: https://amzn.to/472uLx5

And Zoey’s website is here: https://www.lovecaninfactbecalculated.com/

More about Zoey Charif: 

Zoey Charif isn’t just redefining how we think about love — she’s giving us a blueprint. As the author of Love Can, In Fact, Be Calculated, Zoey spent two decades decoding patterns of human attraction, pulling from her background in criminology, data analytics, and a drive to challenge everything we’ve been taught about love.

Born in Afghanistan, raised in Vancouver, and now based in Orange County, California, Zoey brings a rare blend of emotional depth, analytical precision, and lived experience to her work. Her framework is coachable, actionable, and designed to help people transform their relationships.

Her work is a wake-up call: love isn’t magic. It’s math, psychology, and emotional mastery.

Outside of the relationship space, Zoey is a powerhouse entrepreneur helping startups and established businesses secure funding and scale with precision.Whether she’s helping people find aligned love or success, Zoey’s mission is the same: to turn hope into mastery and potential into reality.

That’s why I sat down with Emotional Resiliency Coach Jennifer Febel, author of How to Set Boundaries (Without Feeling Like a Dck)*. She busts common myths about boundaries and shares a down-to-earth, empowering framework for creating them with clarity and ease. With over twenty years of expertise in communication and personal growth, Jennifer offers practical tools and compassionate guidance to help you express your needs confidently—without shame, conflict, or endless second-guessing.

If you’ve ever struggled to say no or felt anxious about how others will respond when you finally do, this is a conversation you’ll definitely want to tune into.

Here’s what we cover in our interview: 

-Jennifer shares her inspiring journey to heal herself and discover her own boundaries after being diagnosed with over seven different mental health conditions by the age of 19.

-What is the biggest misconception about boundaries, and why do so many people struggle to set them?

-In her book, Jennifer talks about “the language of boundaries.” She shares examples in our interview that help us put these tools into practice!

-How can someone start setting boundaries today, even if they’ve never done it before?

-Jennifer’s advice for handling people who push back when we start enforcing boundaries.

Jennifer’s Free Gift:

Jennifer is happy to offer her online course 'Rewrite Your Story' as a free gift to my audience. To access the gift, you just have to register at www.btgwellness.com/rewrite. At checkout, use coupon code NICENOMORE to access the course for free.

More about Jennifer Febel

“You are not broken.” This phrase has become Jennifer’s personal and professional mantra and is one she’s determined to share with as many people as possible. After being diagnosed with over seven different mental health conditions by the age of 19, Jennifer embarked on a unique journey of healing and self-discovery that helped shaped her belief that no one is broken and that everyone can find the healing they crave. 

Today, as an Author, Emotional Resiliency Coach, Mentor, and Communications Instructor, Jennifer brings over two decades of experience in psychology, communication, and linguistics to her work.

Through her private practice, trainings, retreats, and podcast, she empowers individuals to overcome their challenges using the same tools and principles that transformed her own life. By blending her professional expertise with the hard-earned wisdom of her personal healing journey, Jennifer has become a trusted resource in emotional resilience and offers support that is authentic, grounded, and deeply meaningful.

That’s why I decided to interview Inner Child Expert Anat Peri. She’s an expert on how early experiences with our parents shape the way we show up in romantic relationships—and how to rewrite those patterns to create conscious, secure, soul-shaking love. 

Whether you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners or find yourself shutting down when things get intimate, Anat’s guidance will help you reconnect to the part of you that knows how to love and be loved—without losing yourself.

Here’s what we cover in our interview: 

What exactly is a “love script,” and where does it come from?

How do we know if we’re living out our childhood patterns in our current relationships?

How does Mom teach us about self, and dad teach us about others?

How can someone begin to rewrite their love script, especially if they feel stuck in repeating dynamics?

What role does the nervous system play in shifting these deep patterns?

What are some common survival strategies people use in relationships—and what’s underneath them?

How does Anat’s 5 Stages of Healing framework support this transformation?

You can get Anat’s free gift, “Cultivating Safety: A Guided Meditation to Rewire for Love” here: https://trainingcampforthesoul.com/cultivating-safety-meditation/

Before we can rewrite our love script, we must feel safe enough to do so. This 10-minute guided meditation helps you gently reconnect to your body, regulate your nervous system, and create an inner sense of emotional safety—the foundation for conscious love and healing.

Perfect for anyone who feels overwhelmed, shut down, or stuck in survival mode in relationships. Use this meditation daily to come home to yourself and create the safety you didn’t receive as a child.

More about Anat Peri:

Anat Peri is an Inner Child Expert, Founder of Training Camp for the Soul™, and Mentor to Coaches and Healers. With over 20 years of experience in emotional healing and leadership, she helps people rewrite the emotional patterns they inherited from childhood—so they can finally create the love, success, and freedom they desire.

Through her signature 5 Stages of Healing, Anat blends somatic work, subconscious reprogramming, and nervous system regulation to help clients break free from survival strategies and embody their true selves. Her TEDx talk, Why Thinking Positive Doesn’t Work, challenges the status quo and champions the power of emotional truth.

Anat has guided over 10,000 hours of transformational work and trained hundreds of coaches to do the same. Her work has been featured on MSN, and she’s known for making deep healing accessible, actionable, and lasting.

That’s why I decided to interview Relationship and attachment trauma Practitioner Bev Mitelman about BECOMING Securely Loved. She, like I, grew up in an environment that fostered disorganized attachment and dedicated herself to learning the skills to heal, grow, and create secure love. Our conversation is a deep dive into attachment styles, how they form, how they look and how you can develop more self awareness that leads to secure love. 

Here’s what we cover in our interview: 

What are attachment styles are and how do they impact our romantic relationships?

How does our childhood play a role in developing our attachment style?

How does being securely attached in your relationship with yourself set the foundation for healthier relationships with others?

Can you change your attachment style?

What are the beliefs and skills of securely vs. insecurely attached people?

Here’s Bev’s Free attachment style quiz!

https://securelyloved.com/attachment-quiz

More about Bev Mitelman: 

As a child, Bev lived in a very unpredictable and chaotic environment where she never knew if she could rely on her parents to meet her emotional needs. This led her to absorb unhealthy relationship ideas based on what she was witnessing: she believed relationships were supposed to be unbalanced, uncertain, and overall chaotic. If you have an insecure attachment style, you probably relate to her experience, and navigating relationships can be particularly difficult for you.  

Prior to becoming a Certified Attachment Practitioner and founding Securely Loved, Bev was an Executive Leader, University Lecturer and published author, having obtained her Masters' Degree in 2006. She has dedicated her entire career (25+ years) working with adults in the realm of personal growth and professional development.

That’s why I decided to interview Phyllis Levitt because she talks about how to navigate conflict in a healthy way: in our romantic relationships, families, and larger communities. Her latest book, "America in Therapy" is about bringing healing and conflict resolution to ourselves on a personal level; and our larger communities; and the relationship between the two.

Phyllis presents 6 principles for how to navigate conflict in a healthy way where both people feel connected even if they disagree. It’s also a framework to repair a conflict after it happens.

Here’s what we cover in our interview: 

What struggles lead you to discover these 6 principles? 

What are the principles and how do you apply them to transform conflict into connection? 

What are the pitfalls around conflict? 

What are the dangers for us personally and globally if we don't begin to make this connection? 

What are the benefits and gifts?

Lois is giving away a free gift: 

PDF called The 6 Secrets For Repairing Relationships After Conflict and a Conflict Type Quiz to help identify your conflict style: https://phyllisleavitt.com/wp-content/uploads/6-Secrets-to-Repairing-Relationships.pdf

More about Phyllis Levitt, in her words: 

I am a psychotherapist of over thirty years and my own healing journey from childhood trauma took me deep into a spiritual connection that changed my life. What I realized at a critical point was that the ways I connect to spirit are influenced by my emotional health or ill health, and that healing emotional wounds became as much a part of my work as meditation and other practices. I now see them as intimately related. I wrote two books about my spiritual connection-- "A Light in the Darkness" and "Into the Fire" -- and my latest book, "America in Therapy" is about bringing psychological healing to ourselves and our nation and the relationship between the two. And it is my hope and my commitment that through healing our collective psychological make-up we can all be a part of the evolution of consciousness for the human race.

Jem Fuller has lived a colourful, global life. From barefoot backpacker to corporate leader, fire-dancer and traditional tattooist, kindergarten teacher to motorcycle courier, masseuse and reflexologist, to labourer and travel consultant. For more than 12 years now, he has run his own executive leadership coaching practice and international retreat company teaching conscious communication, which is why I decided to interview him.

Here's what we cover in our interview:

How did you discover conscious communication? 

What mistakes have you made and learnt from?

How do we elevate our relationships and experience of life and love through more conscious communication?

Why do you believe a mindfulness meditation practice is so important?

Jem's free gift:

Mindfulness Made Easy Course: https://jemfuller.teachable.com/p/mindfulness-made-easy Enter the coupon code PODCAST25 for free lifetime access

Here's a direct link to Jem's book: The Art of Conscious Communication: https://amzn.to/4j75cxr

Here's Jem's latest TEDX talk: How to Have THAT Conversation: https://youtu.be/Z6bOk1nYwxs?si=ZatcYd-7xZoZCdkZ

More about Jem Fuller:

Jem Fuller has lived a colourful, global life. From barefoot backpacker to corporate leader, fire-dancer and traditional tattooist, kindergarten teacher to motorcycle courier, masseuse and reflexologist, to labourer and travel consultant. 

For more than 12 years now, he has run his own executive leadership coaching practice and international retreat company in the Himalaya, Bali and Australia. He is a dedicated partner and father, who loves surfing and meditation. He is the author of the award-winning book, The Art of Conscious Communication, and can be seen delivering his TEDx talk on YouTube.

However, some therapists who specialize in personality disorders have seen narcissists, with the right support, learn and grow into more empathic people who are capable of showing up with some self-awareness and care. This isn’t the majority, of course, and it’s not to minimize the abuse and hurt that narcissists cause to those closest to them. But if you have to relate to a narcissist, either through family, business, or some other obligation, it’s good to know what your options are. 

That’s why I decide to interview Dr. Anthony Mazzella. He’s a psychoanalyst and psychotherapist specializing in personality disorders, including narcissistic and borderline pathology. He even hosts a podcast and video channel, called The Narcissism Decoder. He’s seen evidence of change in his practice and wanted to share his insights. 

Here’s what we cover in his interview: 

How do you know if the person you're with is on the NPD spectrum?  

What are the typical painful cycles that people get caught in if they're in this type of relationship?  

How do you know if they can change?  

What are the ways that they can change? What is the best case scenario?  

More about Dr. Anthony Mazzella: You can learn more about his work and his podcast on his website: https://www.drmazzella.com/

Dr. Anthony Mazzella is a psychoanalyst and psychotherapist specializing in psychodynamic treatment for individuals and couples. Driven by a passion for continuous learning, he shares valuable insights, strategies, and practical tips through his podcast and video channel, The Narcissism Decoder. His work focuses on the area he is most passionate about—personality disorders, including narcissistic and borderline pathology.

While each marriage is different, Gabriela believes that there are universal best practices that transcend all differences. Why? Because they tap into something deeper—the nature of the human soul.

In her book, "Becoming a Power Couple," Gabriela outlines what she considers the key do's and don’ts of legendary relationships, revealing how to build an unshakable connection that deepens with each passing day. She shares the most important points from her book in our interview.

Here's what we cover in our interview:

Why do so many couples end up feeling disconnected over time? What are they missing?

What does “engineering” a successful marriage mean? What does that look like in real life?

What are the 4 pillars to Engineer Legendary Marriages?

What are the biggest "do's and don’ts" that can make or break a marriage?

How can couples shift from “just getting by” to actually thriving together?

What are some simple daily habits that can help couples strengthen their connection?

More about Gabriela Embon:

Gabriela Embon is a Chemical Engineer, Relationship Coach, Author, influential Host of the Life Engineering podcast, and dynamic Keynote Speaker. Gabriela Embon believes that a fulfilling adult life hinges on two essential components: an ideal career and a thriving primary relationship. After spending eight years as a chemical engineer, Gabriela transitioned into couples coaching, bringing with her a unique edge—combining the precision of engineering with deep insights into human potential. She inspires high achievers and organizations to succeed, shedding light on the strategies needed to engineer extraordinary careers and build resilient, fulfilling relationships both inside and outside the workplace. 

Gabriela is the proud author of Becoming a Power Couple – 4 Pillars to Engineer Legendary Marriages, which empowers individuals to embrace key principles that strengthen and elevate their relationships over time.

Gabriela's free gift: https://gabrielaembon.com/prologue-becoming-a-power-couple/

You can download the prologue of the book: Becoming a Power Couple - 4 pillars to engineer legendary marriages for free.

Giovanna Silvestre, a leading lifestyle and wellness influencer and creator of the international activewear brand Confused Girl in the City, understands the turbulence of the modern world firsthand. Her message is this: to all the women who feel stuck, unworthy, and lost, take heart—your confusion is a virtue! It’s the first stepping-stone on your path to becoming an empowered warrior. Now, she’s here to guide women towards breaking free and boldly, confidently pursuing their dreams.

Here’s what we cover in our interview:  

What inspired you to write "Confused Girl: Find Your Peace in the Chaos," and how does it reflect your personal journey?

Why is it important to slow down when we feel confused and learn to listen to your body, feelings, and intuition? 

What are some practical tips you would offer to someone feeling lost or confused in their own life?

What role do you believe self-expression and creativity play in finding peace amidst chaos?

What advice do you have for individuals looking to connect more deeply with their spirituality or intuition?

What do you hope readers will take away from "Confused Girl," and how do you envision it impacting their lives?

Giovanna also has a free gift: if you purchase her book before May 13, she’ll enter you into a contest to win valuable gifts, like a paid get-away or a gift card to her store. You can learn more here: https://confusedgirlinthecity.com/confused-girl-book-launch-giveaway/

More about Giovanna Silvestre

Giovanna Silvestre, a visionary and trailblazer, embarked on a remarkable journey that took her from the prestigious halls of the University of Southern California to the world of entertainment. Beginning her career in Hollywood, Giovanna’s unwavering passion for creativity and innovation quickly distinguished her in the industry. Her sharp eye for talent and commitment to her craft led to a sought-after role alongside a renowned film director at a major studio.

However, after leaving the entertainment industry, Giovanna fell into a dark depression, a pivotal moment that forced her to confront her identity and purpose. This introspective time ignited her quest to discover who she truly was and why she was here on Earth, ultimately leading her to create her brand and write her book.

With an entrepreneurial spirit, Giovanna founded Confused Girl in the City, a unique activewear brand inspired by healing crystals. Driven by her determination and an innate sense of design, her innovative creations have garnered acclaim in prominent publications such as NBC and Forbes, while amassing a dedicated following of 400,000 on Instagram.

In May 2025, Giovanna’s highly anticipated book, "Confused Girl: Find Your Peace in the Chaos," will be published by Blackstone Publishing Company. Written during her two years of solo travel around the world, the book masterfully blends memoir and guidance, empowering readers to embrace confusion as a virtue that can lead to a fulfilling life.

Recognized for her influential voice and authenticity on major social media platforms, Giovanna exudes a magnetic aura that resonates with audiences everywhere. Her journey is a testament to the power of passion, creativity, and the transformative nature of embracing life's uncertainties.

Judith Costa is a Self-Love Coach who encountered many challenges in her relationships and health before she learned how to love herself unconditionally. She wishes someone had explained what Self-Love was when she was struggling and unhappy; and her mission is to share the insights and practical tools she learned on her journey so we can all create abundance, well-being, and better relationships. Her approach is a testament to the idea that when you Love yourself, you can truly share that Love with others.

Here’s what Judith shares in our interview: 

• What does it mean to Love yourself?
• How did you discover it? 
• How do you know if you’re loving yourself or not? 
• What are the consequences of not loving yourself? 
• How can you demonstrate the Love that you have for yourself?
• How will loving yourself transform your life?
• Is loving oneself selfish or necessary?
• Practices to improve the relationship with yourself
• Why do you need to Love yourself to establish happy relationships?

Judith’s Free Gift includes two meditations: Fall In Love With Yourself & Go Within. They will help you connect with yourself more deeply. https://www.judithmcosta.com/get-your-free-gift.html

More about Judith Costa: 

Judith Costa is an unconditional Love coach, Self-Love expert, seminar leader, writer, and speaker. She has a master's degree in Analytical Psychology and Psychotherapy and an MBA. She is also a Reiki Master, a certified Akashic Records consultant and teacher, and a Happiness Trainer.

Judith's coaching is centered around the powerful belief that Love, especially Self-Love, is the catalyst for personal transformation. By helping her clients cultivate a deeper relationship with themselves, she empowers them to create abundance, well-being, and better relationships. Her approach is a testament to the idea that when you Love yourself, you can truly share that Love with others.

She offers private sessions, workshops, and retreats. Some of her programs are Fall In Love With Yourself, Fall In Love With Your Body, How To Manifest Your Desires, How to Find Your Soul Mate, and Loving Your Way To Happiness.

Thankfully, just as there are good relationship coaches to help improve your marriage, there are also divorce coaches to help you make the best decisions for you and your family. That’s why I decided to interview Karen Covy, acclaimed divorce coach, mediator, and lawyer, about how to navigate this tough transition with as much ease and grace as possible. 

Here’s what we cover in our interview: 

-How do you make a big, hairy, emotional decision (ie like whether you should get a divorce) when there’s a lot at stake and you don’t want to screw up? 

-Is there a “right time” to divorce? If so, when is it and how do you know if you’re there?

-Divorce can be totally overwhelming. If someone is facing divorce, what should they do? Where do they start? What steps should they take first?

-How can you set yourself up to have an amicable divorce?

-How can you become the CEO of your own divorce? (... and is that even a "thing"?)

-What is a divorce coach and why would anyone need one?

-How do you protect your kids in divorce?

Karen has a free gift called The Divorce Tool Kit. https://karencovy.com/divorce-tool-kit-lp/

It contains:

-A Divorce Checklist 

-A Document Checklist

-A Divorce Process Comparison Chart

-Tips on How to Tell Your Spouse You Want a Divorce

Here’s the link to Karen’s book: When Happily Ever After Ends: How to Survive Your Divorce Emotionally, Financially and Legally: https://a.co/d/0MXL5AS

She also interviewed me recently on her podcast, “On The Fence” https://karencovy.com/podcast/

More about Karen Covy: 

Karen Covy is a Divorce Coach, Lawyer, Mediator, Author, Speaker and Podcaster.  She coaches six, seven, and eight figure professionals and business owners all over the world to make clear, confident decisions during highly-charged emotional situations. 

Karen helps her clients become the CEOs of their own divorce, so they can navigate through this difficult life transition with less conflict, less expense, and less damage to themselves and their children. 

Karen is the author of When Happily Ever After Ends: How to Survive Your Divorce Emotionally, Financially, and Legally. She is also the creator of the online divorce programs, The Divorce Road Map 3.0 and How to Successfully Mediate Your Divorce. She is the host of the podcast, Off the Fence: Mastering Decision-Making Divorce and More.

That's why I was excited to interview Unconscious-Mind Coach Wendy Patterson, because she specializes in helping people process their emotions productively. We had a thought-provoking discussion about why it's important to, and how to, label our feelings, identify what we need, meet that need ourselves first, and ask for what we need harmoniously. Wendy also overcame a lifetime of emotional repression and she shares her inspiring journey that lead her to helping others.

Here's what we cover in this interview:

-Wendy shares her journey from people pleasing and repressing feelings/needs to being able to be authentic, self-expressed, and fulfilled 

-Strategies and tips to label feelings, identity needs, and meet them ourselves so we can be calm and harmonious when we express them to others

-How to identify the unmet needs from childhood that become triggers and how to meet those needs in the present 

-How to ask for what we need harmoniously and simply

-What self care practices does she do to remain centered so she can collaborate joyfully with others?

You can get Wendy's free gifts here: Download the FREE Stress Free Hypnotherapy audio and meditation audio: https://wbpatters.ac-page.com/free-stress-release-hypnosis-download 

The website for the 10-day silent meditation retreat that Wendy mentioned is https://www.dhamma.org/

More About Wendy Patterson:

Wendy Patterson, a lifelong seeker of self-discovery, battled depression and anxiety while juggling multiple roles including a corporate job. Now an Unconscious Mind Coach, she specializes in guiding women to rediscover joy and fulfillment. With certifications in Reiki, Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), Time Line Therapy(TM) and much more, she empowers clients to reconnect, reinvent, and deepen self-love in just 10 hours or less. Wendy's expertise transforms lives, helping women navigate towards happiness and authenticity. 

The good news is there are so many ways to heal our inner child. When we work on that healing, we find ourselves getting triggered less often. We can stay present and keep our hearts open, even when we're feeling intense emotions like anger or shame. This makes it easier to communicate with kindness and keeps our relationships feeling truly connected.

Karoline Fischer is a medical doctor turned Hypnotherapist who specializes in healing the inner child through RTT Hypnotherapy. She has very transformative results in just a few sessions. That's why I decided to interview her about how both Hypnotherapy and other modalities like NLP can help to heal old wounds very quickly. She also shares tips that you can use right now to begin to heal those old triggers when they come up.

You can learn more about her work at https://www.whyhypnotherapy.com/

About Karoline Fischer

I am a trained MD that decided to train as an RTT Hypnotherapist as I found out personally how transformative this way of work is. I had worked my entire adult life with therapists for my own life and when I found methods that worked with the subconsciousness, transformation really started to happen in my life.

Through the ups and downs of discovering how to create a business together, their marriage has been the foundation for everything they build in our lives. 

Now they help others live their dream life and that starts with having that rock solid relationship. A relationship where you don’t have to spend valuable time and energy constantly repairing it. They love helping others get that part of their lives exactly where they’ve always wanted it, so they can crush the rest of their lives.

Here's what we cover in our interview:

• How did they discover their passion for helping others improve their relationships?
• What common relationship mistakes do they see couples making that they help them avoid?
• What are some key strategies to strengthen foundation of your relationship?
• How do you handle stress or difficult times in your business/marriage?
• What is the #1 thing someone can do right now to improve their relationship?
• What motivates them on days when they feel like giving up? How do they regroup?

You can get their free gift here: https://roadoflifecoaching-exponentialrelationship.com/meaningfulconversations865935

Your Guide to Meaningful Conversations in Your Marriage to Get You Back on the Same Page Today: The guide walks you through exactly what to ask, when to ask and how to ask effective "check in questions" so that you can rebuild the connection and get your happy marriage back.

Here's the link to join their facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/checkpoint/828281030927956/?next=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2Fgroups%2Ftravelingtheroadoflife%2F

More about Meredith and Craig Bennett:

We are Meredith & Craig, we left the 9-5 corporate grind, to become full time entrepreneurs.

...and had no idea what we were doing.

But we knew we were unhappy and unfulfilled in our corporate careers and that life is just too short to live that way, so we decided to make a massive change.

We wanted to be more intentional about building a life that we loved...instead of just the one we grew up believing we were destined for.

So, we went completely against our nature and decided to jump out of the plane and build our parachute on the way down.

Which made for some interesting, stressful, amazing, painful, insightful, scary, awful, awesome, unbelievable decisions, moments, experiences, relationships, and quite honestly, we wouldn’t have it any other way.

Through it all we’ve developed a growth mindset, and grew exponentially as individuals. We built businesses (most of which sucked). We got in the best shape of our lives in our forties...and did all of it while strengthening our marriage and making it bulletproof.

Our marriage is the foundation for everything we build in our lives. A thriving marriage is the cheat code for leveling up every other area of your life. 

We help others live their dream life and that starts with having that rock solid relationship.

We love helping others get that part of their lives exactly where they’ve always wanted it, so they can crush the rest of their lives.

In the latest episode of The Soul-Shaking Love Podcast, I interview Woman-Centered Transformational Love Coach Ashley Fuller Rubin about her path to Spiritual Synergy. After years of searching and longing for soul-aligned love, she discovered how self-love, cultivating the feminine, and trusting her intuition were the keys to attracting the thriving partnership she had always dreamed of. Through her journey that she shares in our interview, she attracted her now husband Cliff, and they share a deeply fulfilling Power Couple partnership and marriage that has become not only a source of joy but also a spiritual path of growth and connection.

Here is what we cover in our interview:

Ashley shares the story of how she and Cliff attracted each other.

What does a soul-aligned relationship mean to Ashley and how does she use her relationship for spiritual growth?

What does self-love look like in practice and how did it allow her to remove her blocks to intimacy?

How did cultivating her feminine energy play a role in attracting her partner and building their relationship?

Vision is a key part of her process. What kind of vision did she hold for her ideal relationship, and how did that help guide her?

How did listening to her intuition shape her decisions in love?

How do Ashley and Cliff maintain a thriving Power Couple dynamic today?

For those still seeking their soul-aligned partner, she shares advice to start aligning with that love now.

Ashley's Free Gift: 45-minute "Extraordinary Love Assessment" Call with Ashley to discover your inner barriers to the love you desire. Awareness is key to transforming your old patterns and experiences in love!

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More about Ashley Fuller Rubin:

Ashley is a certified Woman-Centered Transformational Coach, licensed Spiritual Counselor, and Path of Self-Love Guide devoted to helping women create the love they deeply desire by first embracing the love within. Known as the “Coach to Queens,” Ashley has spent over a decade empowering heart-centered, high-achieving women from around the world to break free from limiting patterns, embrace their feminine essence, step into their sovereign Queen self, and attract the love of their dreams. Her work inspires women to live fully expressed, radiant lives and co-create flourishing, extraordinary love relationships that reflect their highest vision.

Ashley’s own journey is at the heart of her work. After years of searching and longing for soul-aligned love, she discovered how self-love, cultivating the feminine, and trusting her intuition were the keys to attracting the thriving partnership she had always dreamed of. Now, she lives in Canada with her Love, Cliff, in a deeply fulfilling Power Couple partnership and marriage that has become not only a source of joy but also a spiritual path of growth and connection.

As the Faculty Lead for Personal Development at the Institute for Woman-Centered Coaching and Community Director for the world-renowned Feminine Power & Art of Love programs, Ashley has coached and mentored thousands of women through private coaching, group programs, and women’s circles. Her passion is creating safe, transformational spaces where women experience powerful breakthroughs, cultivate radical self-love, and step boldly into their vision for life and love.

In her work, Ashley shares soulful guidance and practical insights to help women align with the love they desire—whether they’re calling in their soulmate or deepening a current connection. She invites women to open their hearts, trust their intuition, and embrace their feminine power to create relationships rooted in spiritual synergy and mutual growth.

Ashley has been personally trained and mentored for nearly twenty years by Dr. Claire Zammit, founder and creator of Feminine Power, and has studied with luminaries such as Dr. Jean Houston, Rev. Dr. Michael Bernard Beckwith, Dr. Kristin Neff, Gay & Kathlyn Hendricks, and Alison Armstrong.

Her mission is to empower women to rise into their authentic Queen self, embrace their unique brilliance, and create extraordinary love and life on their terms. With warmth, wisdom, and a deeply personal understanding of the journey, Ashley is here to guide women to claim the love they deserve and become the women they were born to be.

In our interview, Kristal shares her expertise on fostering emotional safety, enhancing self-love, and building strong, resilient relationships. Kristal describes the STRONG model of relational therapy, a framework designed to help people experience secure, fulfilling relationships by enhancing emotional intelligence, understanding attachment styles, and deepening relational connection. Whether single or in a relationship, she shares actionable steps for cultivating the healthy, soul-shaking love they desire.

Here's what we cover in our interview:

1. What is the STRONG model and how can it help people create more secure and fulfilling relationships?

2. What role does self-love play in relational health, and what are some practical ways we can cultivate it?

3. How can understanding our attachment styles impact the way we approach romantic relationships?

4. For those who struggle with anxious attachment, what steps can they take to feel more secure and cherished in their relationships?

She shares practical tools and paradigms that can help you improve your relationship right now.

Here's Kristal's Free Gift: www.strong.love

Kristal offers a free guide titled, "Building Secure Connections: Practical Steps to Strengthen Your Relationship." This downloadable resource provides insights, exercises and tips from her STRONG model. Whether single or in a relationship, listeners can use this guide to take meaningful steps toward building the soul-shaking love they seek.

More about Kristal DeSantis:

Kristal DeSantis is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and the author of STRONG: A Relationship Field Guide for the Modern Man. With a focus on relational wellness, emotional intelligence, and self-love, Kristal helps individuals and couples build resilient, fulfilling relationships rooted in emotional safety and connection. Through her STRONG model of relational therapy, she provides practical tools to foster secure, lasting bonds that enhance both personal and relational growth.

Jonathon says that dating reveals the most common emotional health challenges we face: it's hard to stay in the game if we don't have high amounts of self-worth, self-regard, and self-love. So I called Jonathon back on my show to pick his brain about how he uses self-love practices to help singles over 40 cut through the crap and find lasting love.

Here's what we cover in our interview:

How does Jonathon define self love and know if you are really loving yourself?

What are the key mindsets that help us to have the ability to change old habits so we’re feeling more self-awareness, compassion, and love?

What are the layers of programming that we all have and how do self-awareness and personal responsibility help us peel back the layers to shift into self love?

How do you experience self-love even when you’ve been hurt or abandoned in a relationship or breakup?

Why do we need self-love in order to recognize red flags when you’re dating?

Follow Jonathon on YouTube for his free gifts: https://www.youtube.com/@JonathonAslay

You can get Jonathon's book, "What the Heck Is Self-Love Anyway?" here: https://amzn.to/4fQPZPW

More about Jonathon Aslay:

Jonathon Aslay, one of America's Leading Mid-Life Dating Coaches, has expanded into a deeper, essential philosophy of what it truly means to LOVE. After losing his 19-year-old son Connor in 2018, Jonathon Aslay’s grief led him on a soul-searching inner journey, where he became aware of an often overlooked dimension of the dating conversation. He realized that the dating process reveals the most common emotional health issue faced by many singles seeking a partner: a distressing lack of self-worth, self-regard, and self-love. Today, he is on a mission of encouraging both men and women to fully love themselves with his new book, "What The Heck Is Self-Love Anyway?"— packed with fun, engaging spiritual and personal growth practices—and his dynamic Mid-Life Love Mastery mentorship program, which inspires hundreds of people daily around the world.

In our interview, Sanaiyah shares simple ways to spot these blocks, understand their impact, and knock them down, so you can stop sabotaging your love life and start building a successful path to your happily ever after. Tune in and learn how to clear the way to true love!

Here's what we cover in our interview:

1. What exactly are 'love blocks' and how do they show up in relationships?

2. Why do love blocks get created in the first place?

3. What signs might suggest someone has love blocks?

4. How do love blocks affect our search for a soulmate?

5. What should someone do first after they find out they have love blocks?

7. What are quick tips for someone to start clearing their love blocks right away?

You can take Sanaiyah's quiz to find and start clearing your love blocks: https://www.sanaiyahgurnamal.com/love-blocks-quiz

Once you take the quiz, if you're interested in working with Sanaiyah, you can book a 20 minute call with her here: https://calendly.com/sanaiyahgurnamal/manifest-love

More about Snaiyah Gurnaml:

Sanaiyah is a love and relationship coach dedicated to empowering women to attract their soulmates, reboot their existing relationships, and unlock the power of self-love. 

Her signature program, Soulmate Magnet, helps women struggling with love to stop chasing it and start attracting it, so they can finally go from ‘single’ to ‘in a relationship’—for life. 

She believes the most important relationship is the one you have with yourself, and by focusing on inner work, everything else falls into place.

As the charismatic host of the Project Loving Myself podcast—a Spotify Top 50 and #1 Trending podcast—Sanaiyah invites listeners to a world where self-love is more than a buzzword; it’s about becoming your top priority, biggest fan, and loudest cheerleader. She’s regularly featured by top-tier organizations such as CNN, Cosmopolitan, Tatler, and Entrepreneurs Organization (EO).

Those are exactly the kinds of questions that Dating and Love Coach Kate Houston tackles in her coaching so I knew I needed to bring her onto the Soul-Shaking Love podcast. She knows women feel frustrated and fed up with dating and that deep down they want to feel vibrant, fun and free in love. So I decided to pick her brain on how she does it!

Here is what we cover in our interview:

-How recalibrating one's 'man picker' helps women avoid the dating and relationship roller coaster and stop doubting their choices/stop settling.

-What does being a 'Gold Standard Woman' mean, and how does this concept empower women to attract and keep real love with a real man?

-How can embracing both strength and femininity actually enhance a woman's allure and attract the right kind of partner?

-What DO women have control over that Kate sees most women not tapping into?

-What is Your Bold Love Archetype and how can you use it to attract a high-value man?

Kate's Free Gift: What is Your Bold Love Archetype? https://katehoustoncoaching.aweb.page/p/3cd0a36c-5d40-4a83-a4de-2d890d07e97c

Take the quiz, attract real bold love. Voilà— you’ll unlock your specific Bold Love Archetype, your personal love persona. You'll get custom journal prompts too, ready to steer you through a game-changing journey that's all about upping your dating and love life, tailored just for you.

More about Kate Houston:

Kate Houston supports women who are successful in business yet anxious in love to slay the love barriers keeping them single so they may experience a lifetime of real love and intimacy with an amazing man and create the relationship of their dreams with grounded,  unshakeable clarity. 

Kate knows women feel frustrated and fed up with dating and that deep down they want to feel vibrant, fun and free in love. They just don't know how to get there. That's where Kate comes in! With her sense of joy and ease, Kate helps women reignite the FUN in dating while showing them the effective techniques so they attract their amazing man.

Teaching women how to have courageous conversations with themselves and then their partner to create freedom and intimacy for a lifetime is what Kate does. Helping powerhouse women feel empowered and also alluring to create the deeply loving partnership they've always dreamed of is what Kate does.

Fortunately, Dr. Diana Kirschner has cracked the code and has discovered four must-know keys for successful women who want to find a top-tier guy. She has helped tens of thousands of women of all ages to find high-caliber men to date and to create passionate soulmate love.

When I heard this, I knew I had to bring her back onto the Soul-Shaking Love Podcast to illuminate the path for you!

Here's what Dr. Diana reveals during our interview:

How has your coaching team actually helped women to find and marry high-caliber guys, like doctors, CEOs or  millionaires?

What are the steps in finding an accomplished man to date?

Do you have to be some kind of gorgeous, young thing to be in a high-level relationship with an accomplished man? [Spoiler: of course not! But she reveals what skills you do need to have...]

You can get Dr. Diana's free gift here: Find Your TOP-TIER Mr. Right Today  ZERO COST Coaching Session!  PBS Love Expert and Bestselling Author Dr. Diana Kirschner will personally match you with a handpicked coach for a life-changing GIFT session !  Click here https://lovein90days.com/find-mr-right-today/ Simply fill out the form and Say “Valerie sent me” for VIP treatment! 

Here's the link to our last interview: The Single Most Important Thing You Can Do to Create Lasting Passionate Love: https://youtu.be/4Aqx5VDcPlE

More about Dr. Diana Kirschner

Psychologist Dr. Diana Kirschner appeared on Oprah and stars in an Amazon Prime show, Love in 90 Days: Finding Your Own True Love.  Her smash bestseller is Love in 90 Days. Through her acclaimed coaching team, Dr. Diana has helped tens of thousands of women of all ages to find high-caliber men to date and to create passionate soulmate love. Dr. Diana’s website, www.Lovein90Days.com is an acclaimed source of empowerment, dating and relationship advice.

In the latest episode of The Soul-Shaking Love Podcast, I brought back intuitive healer Mary Jo Cranmore to talk about how to identify a narcissist.

Mary Jo used to attract Narcissists and as a result of her inner work, was able to identify and let go of narcissistic partners and patterns and learn how to identify the patterns that narcissists display so that she stopped getting stuck in toxic relationships herself. And now she loves teaching those skills to other people.  

Here's what you'll learn in our interview:

What kind of behavior does a narcissist display on the first few dates vs. later on? 

What might be the impact on you to be in a relationship with someone on the narcissistic spectrum? 

How can you access your intuition when interacting with them makes you doubt yourself? 

Questions to ask to tell if someone might be a narc and how would they answer if they were? 

Is it always a dealbreaker or is there a way to tell if they're willing to grow and change to have more self-awareness? 

If you're dating a narcissist, how to exit without them getting manipulative? 

Why some people choose to stay with a Narc and find it difficult to leave? 

You can listen to our other interview about how to use intuition to attract your soulmate here: https://coachvaleriegreene.com/podcast/mary-jo/

More about Mary Jo Cranmore:

Mary Jo has a wealth of information on her monthly newsletter at soulfulrevolutiontv.com

Mary Jo Cranmore is an intuitive healer for more than 25 years who helps people understand and achieve their mission in this life. She has integrated many disciplines together into a coherent method of understanding deep-rooted patterns and truths that light up each seeker’s path forward. Her own journey of trial and error became a roadmap to success, once she pieced together her life purpose and awakened her heart. As a result of her inner work, was able to identify and let go of narcissistic partners and patterns and learn how to identify the patterns that narcissists display so that she stopped getting stuck in toxic relationships herself. And now she loves teaching those skills to other people. 

Here's what we cover in our interview:

• What are the most common dating challenges that people run into if they have Anxious Attachment?
• How Claire navigated those challenges herself
• How do you self-soothe to feel more secure before a date? 
• What inner work to do to clarify vision/values before dating so you attract someone compatible? 
• Online dating:  How do you create a profile that stands out? 
• What to do/not to do on a date so you can enjoy the process and discover who you click with.

Claire's free gift: https://subscribepage.io/T49Lzr

'Glow Up Your Dating Bio' - how to creating a dating profile that stands out on the apps, and create more connections with people who are a great match for you!

More about Claire:

Claire Grigson is a dating and relationship coach, who specializes in supporting women to create their dream relationship, through building a rock solid self relationship first, allowing them to feel more secure, confident and empowered. Having navigated infidelity, divorce, and dating for the first time in her mid-thirties:  dating apps, situationships, amazing connections and everything in between, she understands the modern dating landscape, and brings a wealth of personal experience, to support her coaching expertise.

But how do we learn to do this? In the latest episode of The Soul-Shaking Love Podcast, I interview Intimacy Coach Veronica Lynn Clark about how to cultivate inner intimacy; i.e. how to love and accept yourself fully. With nearly two decades in trauma recovery, addiction, and sexual healing, Veronica shares powerful insights and practical tools to help you reconnect with your inner essence, heal past wounds, and foster a deep sense of inner peace and fulfillment, which radiates out to connect with others.

Veronica's Free Gift: https://veronicalynnclark.com/inner-intimacy

As a special gift for our listeners, Veronica Lynn Clark is offering a free eBook on cultivating inner intimacy. This comprehensive guide includes powerful exercises, insightful reflections, and practical tools to help you embark on your journey of self-love and self-acceptance. To receive your free eBook, simply message Veronica on Instagram with your email address, and she’ll send it directly to you. This gift is Veronica’s way of supporting you in unlocking your true potential and creating a deeply fulfilling relationship with yourself.

More about Veronica Lynn Clark:

Veronica Lynn Clark is a Life Reinvention Strategist and Intimacy Coach. With nearly two decades in trauma recovery, addiction, and sexual healing, Veronica merges mind intricacies with body wisdom. She’s the author of "To Be Aligned" and “S.E.X. Boss: A Guide to Embracing Your Sexual Energy for Self Mastery and Personal Empowerment." Veronica is a sought-after keynote speaker and guiding light helping people around the globe to illuminate their own path to self-discovery and empowerment.

In the latest episode of the SSLP Podcast, I interview transformational relationship mentor Dr. Gary Salyer. For the last decade, Dr. Salyer has helped singles and couples release old pain and learn the skills to create secure love. He explains that it's about learning how to slow down and attune to each other emotionally, not just jump into problem-solving before you feel like you're on the same team. 

In our in-depth interview, Gary shares:

What are the feelings that any couple must make sure they experience with each other to make their love last?

What builds or destroys trust?

What is the importance of noticing the 'six second moments' in a relationship?

Why feelings need to be addressed before issues can be solved

What does it mean to be a safe haven for each other?

What's a “we-omiter” and why is that important if you want your love last?

Here's Gary's Free Gift: What if you could ask some of the world’s leading experts how to find lasting love? Dr. Gary Salyer, author of Safe to Love Again: How to Release the Pain of Past Relationships and Create the Love You Deserve - shares the teachings of the best of the best including his own groundbreaking work - to help you find the love you deserve. These four to five-minute videos will introduce you to ways to find a relationship and keep it.  And, if you are already coupled, you will learn ways to fall in love all over again with your partner.  Please go to https://garysalyer.com/loveguide to sign up for this life changing video series.

Gary also has an online course and a book. Here are the links for that:

Open For Love: An online course that helps you release the pain of the past and create healthy love: https://garysalyer.com/openforlove2024/

Safe to Love Again: How to Release the Pain of Past Relationships: Gary's ground-breaking book: https://amzn.to/3SyIW5m

More about Gary:

Dr. Gary Salyer is a transformational relationship mentor.  For the last decade, Dr. Salyer has been in private practice offering singles and couples heart-centered transformation so they can re-write the rules for love in their brains and create a love that lasts.  Dr. Gary is a featured expert on various celebrity TV and radio shows and is the author of the ground-breaking book, Safe to Love Again: How to Release the Pain of Past Relationships and Create the Love You Deserve.