Don’t Set Your Resolutions Until You Do This :)

Before you set your sights on some of the usual goals for the new year, what kind of difference would it make in your life if you had a breakthrough in your love life in 2019?

Because people who have good relationships are more successful in every area of their lives.

But Relationship goals can seem vague, so it’s easy to leave them out. We have an idea that we want to meet someone or fight less, but how does that translate into an effective goal or resolution?

Did you know that the people who have the best relationships have both an inspiring vision and practical goals for how to get there?

Let’s start with your vision. What do you envision for your relationship in the new year?

Perhaps it’s walking a beautiful moonlight path under the stars with your beloved, as the the warm breeze softly caresses you, and the love between you is palpable.

Or maybe you envision exhilarating times like skiing down a slope with the fresh snow and sun glistening all around you, as you feel the rush of love coursing through your veins. How sweet life is!

Maybe you are feeling content finally feeling safe with your loved one, as you’re snuggled up on the sofa, enjoying your favorite show or movie together, feeling ultimate peace, security, and romance.

And aren’t there even more visions of love that could dance in your head and be a perfect fit for you?

That’s the magic of renewing our intentions to deepen intimacy in the new year.

Once you have a vision, it’s time to create goals and resolutions to achieve that vision. Here are some examples of relationship goals and resolutions:

If you’re in a relationship:

Understand your partner better

Make more quality time

Move your relationship to the next level of commitment

Communicate your feelings and needs instead of criticizing or

getting defensive

Create healthy boundaries

Ask for what you want

Resolve that issue you keep arguing about

Learn how to soothe each other’s triggers instead of escalating conflict

Collaborate on important decisions together

Live from your heart instead of your head

Have more fun, play, and intimacy

Use your relationship for personal or spiritual growth

If you’re single:

Make more time to date: either going out more or strategically getting online

Prioritize your pleasure instead of giving so much to others

Create more community in which you might meet someone

Unconditionally love yourself so you can attract a partner who loves all of you

Overcome a pattern of attracting partners who aren’t good for you and finally attract someone who meets you on all levels.

What’s important is that you write down your goals and then have a plan for how you’re going to get there.

A study by The American Society of Training and Development found that people are 65 percent likely to achieve their goal when they tell another person about it. And that increased to 95 percent when they created ongoing meetings with a partner to check in about how that goal is going.

Each year, I’ve been celebrating the opportunity to partner with people just like you to get serious about manifesting connected, loving partnership, and at the end of each year, I get to celebrate along with them as they achieve their dreams.

Would you like to write your love story for the new year? How about we talk and see if a customised plan for attracting and sustaining love is right for you?

I offer a free 90 minute Relationship Breakthrough session to anyone who is considering investing in coaching. Apply for a FREE session with me here.

To Magnificent Love in 2019,
Valerie